January 23, 2019
The difference between being helpful and "arrogant displays of wealth"
Since being helpful and just doing an "arrogant display of wealth" can look the same, the only way to tell the difference is to ask yourself why you're doing what you do. In my life, I've known some wonderfully helpful people, and I've also known people who do things just to show off how rich they are.
And it's a very fine line to determine whether someone is showing off, or just genuinely helping. And since I've know both of those types of people, I've talked to them, and listened.
There is a reward for helping. It's a feeling in your heart that you're doing the right thing. It begins and ends there. For the people who are genuine about helping, they don't need applause for what they do, they don't need a brass band. Often they don't even need a thank you. They just know.
And that brings me to the "arrogant displays of wealth" people, who are just nasty. They do things just to show off, to see their name prominently displayed, to have people fawn on them. I've known these types of people, and helping others is simply a business transaction for them. Sad, but true.
And that's why the people who are genuine about helping often want to remain anonymous. They don't want to be confused with the "arrogant displays of wealth" people. So they say, "don't thank me", and prefer to not have anyone make a "big deal" out of what they've done. It just makes sense. These people aren't grandstanding, they're helping.
If yours is a mindset of business transactions, this can be a difficult concept to grasp. In fact, most of the people I've ever met in my life think this way, and become suspicious of motives. If they can't see why someone is doing what they do, they "fill in the blanks" with what they themselves would do.
So please rest assured that there are a lot of wonderful people who help just to help. And if you're wondering why I don't mention their names here in public, well, that's the point. Because they aren't doing it so that I can mention their names. So all I can say is "thank you, you know who you are!"
Posted by Brad Hall